When the holidays kind of suck (A personal post) | Atlanta Boudoir Photographer

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Let’s just put it out there: sometimes the Holidays really suck.

“Happy Holidays! Happy Thanksgiving! Happy all of the things!!!” Is it appropriate to flip someone the bird if they say that to you? The holiday season, or any holiday ever, isn’t happy for everyone.

The holidays can honestly be anything but happy, and I’ll come right out and say it: this holiday season isn’t exactly looking particularly happy for myself, my family, my boyfriend’s family, and a variety of the people that I have in my life. Generally I love a good email from Sephora and a spruce-tree candle, but right now I hate it all and also I’m avoiding them… along with any stupid, dumb, cheesy, warm-toned, Hallmark Movie. I did buy a tree, but it’s about as “Charlie Brown” as you can get while still making an effort.

Over the 2018 year there existed a litany of life circumstances (can we just call it SHIT?) that had myself and those around me wanting to crawl into a dark, warm bed, only to return after it was all over. And while I’ve only recently encountered certain circumstances that are making me dread the holidays, I know that “Holiday Hell” has existed for so many of you before now. It’s been years since you could look fondly on family gatherings, on special recipes, on memories that you now look back on with pain because they feel false. 

Since August especially we have experienced the deaths of two very important family members. Once on my boyfriend’s side and once on my side. During and before those deaths we have been faced with sickness, tragedy, and accidents with our family and friends. During an exciting trip to upstate NY in August we learned of the passing of Frank’s mom’s partner of nearly 20 years. During this past week we learned of the passing of my aunt, the matriarch of our family (and where I get my affinity for black and bling). Both passings were after we had already made plans to visit because the inevitable was going to happen. We never made it for our last good byes. 

For this holiday season we, and many of our friends, are experiencing a “first” holiday without loved ones. I say “a first holiday” because for the next year there will be many more “first holidays” without them. While I feel sad that this is our first holiday without each other, I also know that there are so many of you that have had countless holidays without those you love, and also without those that you wish loved you.


So, let’s be honest. The holidays are not always happy. They f***ing suck sometimes. Holidays, which are supposed to bring us together in love, joy, thankfulness, remembrance, and reverence, are often clouded with hurt, sadness, anger, apathy, loneliness, and distance. 


At this point I know we could add to the list of negative feelings, but that isn’t the point of this post. Mostly I want to let those of you that feel alone, anxious, pissed off, sad, and allllllllll of the other emotions that aren’t displayed in a Hershey’s or a Gap commercial that it is OK and that someone else out there feels what you feel. 

Hugs to all of you, I’ll be flying to upstate NY for a few days and immediately flying to Savannah, GA for gatherings at opposite ends of the country, but without opposite situations. For those of you in pain, in love, alone, sick, tired, hurt, isolated, pissed off, and on the edge: much love and virtual hugs. The holidays can suck so hard, and you’re definitely not the only one to feel that. 

I’m thankful for all of you that follow along and support OWN. The community of clients, photographers, and friends is incredibly encouraging during hard times and for that I will never feel an ounce of sadness.

-xoxo

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Celebrating '50 again', late-life divorce, and seeing yourself | Atlanta boudoir photographer

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One of the best parts about photographing boudoir sessions for individual women is that I get to bring you stories of life and purpose that will hopefully resonate with you. Boudoir photography, while resulting in killer imagery (especially at my new studio here in Atlanta!), is still a product of a journey for most of my clients. 

We have events in our lives, milestones, relationships, random Tuesdays, etc that shape our views of ourselves (for better and for worse!). It's incredible to watch a new sense of OWNership and love-of-self take over after the boudoir experience. This lovely woman came to me at our Atlanta boudoir studio out of celebration and I loved reading her story. Check it out below!

 

1) How old are you... or if you prefer, who were you listening to at age 14 :)? 

I just celebrated my ’50-again’ birthday in December

 

2) What do you do for a living?

I am an Information Technology Manager

 

3) What/who made you decide to book a boudoir session?

Divorce after 25 years of being married, relocating to Atlanta, starting a new job, new life – [I] wanted to celebrate me and all I have become

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4) Did you have any obstacles or fears about boudoir?

LOL, like most people, I’m sure, I was concerned about how this body really looked!

 

5) Why did you choose OWN? 

After seeing the pictures on the website and the tasteful, sensuous, artistic expressions of all types of women, I knew Sarah was a skilled professional

 

6) How was the actual session different from what you expected (if at all)?

It was much more personalized and casual and relaxing than I expected….it was like spending the afternoon with a good girlfriend! The way Sarah directed me to pose was incredibly easy but produced magnificent results!!

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7) What was your favorite part of the entire experience? (priming, the shoot, seeing images, giving the images..etc)

Hard to pick a favorite; the entire experience was uplifting and confidence building. Probably the most surprising and pleasing part was seeing the images and thinking “ damn, is that really me?!”

 

8) How has the response been to your images?

Very consistent – gasp of air, jaws dropped, then “WOW”

 

9) What is your advice for women interested in such a session? –

DO NOT WAIT, do it now!

 

10) Did anything change about the way you see your own beauty as a result of this session?

Absolutely. More confident. I am gorgeous

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I am not alone (a revisit) | Atlanta Boudoir Photographer

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**This is a revisit to a post that I wrote at this time last year (original post and photos here). My life has changed SO much in the last year. For example, this time last year I was on a girl's trip to Greece taking every advantage of my single hood. This year I'm currently sitting in a hotel in Florence, Italy with my boyfriend of a year. I'm reposting this because I know there has to be at least one person going through a similar situation as I was last year. I've talking to so many of my boudoir clients (both my boudoir clients in Atlanta and ALL around the worlds) and our personal struggles are often so similar so we should never feel alone. Ok the end :) Read on for the full post and to see some photos from our current trip!  

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If you've spent more than 5 minutes with me over the last 5 months then you've heard me talk excitedly about my newfound single-hood. There has been a LOT of traveling, in fact one of my BFFs asked me if I even lived in Atlanta anymore. (The answer is 'yes' I do still live in Atlanta, and I also live at the Atlanta airport. Shout out to the SkyClub at concourse B!)

This stage in my life has been named and re-named a few times and to be completely forward with you guys.. the current operating title is 'Hoe phase'. ;) I'm out there letting my freak flag fly and enjoying every minute of it. Don't get me wrong, cashing 'flirt' checks isn't how I fill the entirety of my time, but it holds a pretty big piece of the pie-chart. 

For the first time in five and a half years I am living life on my own, but I am not 'alone'.  

I'll admit that even though my relationship ended amicably, at first I was a little bitter and lost. My ex got to 'keep' our circle of friends. He 'got' to keep the apartment. Outside of no longer having me in his life (which as we all know is a terrible thing since I am so amazing hahahahaha) it seemed as if he didn't really have anything that changed. He owns a lot of clothes so at the very best he got to take over a second closet. I was the one that was immediately thrown into finding a new circle of friends, creating new routines, and frequenting foreign coffee shops. 

It took me all of about a week to get over the feeling of eye-rolling bitterness. To my surprise, the relationships and experiences that I have had over the last 5 months have been extraordinary. It really is fascinating the experiences that are easy to say 'YES' to when you have zero commitments telling you to say 'NO'. Of course right now my only voice-of-no is my wallet ;) I've met more people, travelled to more places, and tried more new experiences than I did in five and a half years. 

I say this to say. I am not 'alone'. 

A girlfriend and I had dinner a few months ago and she asked me if I was worried that I had spent 5years of my life with someone and had to 'start over' by being alone in my 30s. Let's all give her a bit of grace and assume she didn't mean that in a completely demeaning way. Had I not known this girl for 25 years I probably would have been offended, but I wasn't. There are as many different values as there are people in this world, and I've never been one to really have a romantic relationship as a top value.

The idea of not really caring either way about having a relationship with someone else is a foreign concept to some. With regards to the subject of boudoir, I'm often met with puzzled faces when I mention that a boudoir session is often done because my clients want the photos for 'just' themselves.

"Just". 

Fuck that word. 

"Just" yourself is enough. There is no one on this earth that you should love and honor more than yourself. It is wonderful to love someone else and to be loved by someone else, but you are also enough when you are "just" you. If you aren't in a romantic partnership you are not alone. I am not alone. If you ARE in a romantic partnership, you are not alone. I am not alone. We are living our lives. We may go to bed solo or *feeling* solo, but we are not alone. We have a world of common interests (I mean, you are reading this blog... presumably with like ONE other person) that gives us community. 

My girlfriend I was talking about is constantly trying to hook me up with any single male she meets.

"Just go on ONE date" she says.

"I do not want to date anyone" I say.

"Just ONE" she says. 

::there's that word 'just' again::

"I do not want to date anyone" I repeat.

"Ok well keep thinking about it" she forces. 

::eye roll::

 

I am not alone. I am ME. And I am enough. You are not alone. You are YOU. And you are enough.

 

 

"Stop saying 'I'm sorry'!" (a personal post) | Atlanta Boudoir Photographer

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"Stop saying 'I'm sorry' for things that you have no control over!"

Those are the words that my boyfriend repeated to me at least 4 times last night (and once this morning at 4am as I was dropping him off at the airport). 

He had just spent 7 hours at the Atlanta airport, two of those being on the tarmac, watching his flight get indefinitely delayed. After they deplaned he came home, understandably frustrated, and parked on the sofa. I greeted him with a hug and a kiss and an "I'm sorry about your flight". He hugged and kissed me back and we proceeded to order pizza and scrounge up some clean underwear for him to pack (since we also have no idea where his bag is at this point). 

For the remainder of the night I said "I'm sorry" for a variety of things. 

"I'm sorry about your laundry"

"I'm sorry that we couldn't get the pizza that you like"

"I'm sorry about the mess at the airport"

"I'm sorry you have to get up so early for your flight"

"I'm sorry they don't know when your flight is going to be"

I think I was about to bleat out my 87th "I'm sorry...." when Frank finally stops me and sternly says "Stop saying 'I'm sorry' for things that you have no control over". 

Of course my knee-jerk response was "I'm sorry" (but I used my willpower and refrained). What he had said really struck me. It wasn't because I felt like he wasn't hearing my empathy for his situation, but because I knew the "I'm sorry" reaction was indicative of a few bigger issues.

One issue of course is that I'm too lazy to more specifically express how I feel... hence using "I'm sorry" for when Frank's flight was delayed and also using "I'm sorry" for punching someone in the face (obviously two totally different things, and also the punching is hypothetical).

The second issue is that I realized my immediate response to ANY kind of inconvenience, especially when it happens to someone else, is to apologize for it. I swear, I would say "I'm sorry" to someone that backed into MY parked car. I find myself apologizing for getting bumped into on the sidewalk by someone not paying attention. I've probably apologized to an ex because HE cheated on me.

You see what I mean? 

This whole "sorry" problem came from somewhere, and I have no idea where. I honestly think that most women suffer from chronic "I'm sorry"-ness and we rarely recognize it (unless of course someone calls us out on it). It wasn't until Frank had to AGAIN say to me this morning "Stop apologizing for things that aren't your fault!" –after I apologized for having to take him to the airport– that it finally clicked. 

So, you've heard it here first folks.... I'm vowing to stop saying "I'm sorry" to things that aren't my fault, and promising to put more energy toward using other expressions to express empathy and understanding. 

If you suffer from "I'm sorry"-ness then STOP (as Frank would say). Take ownership of your existence and stand up for yourself. Also... if you come up with other expressions, like: "That's unfortunate", then please send me a list. I'm going to need all of the help I can get.

Sorry for the long post :), 

Sarah

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Follow our SCARS project | Atlanta Boudoir Photographer

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Starting in January 2018 we began a personal project that focuses on telling the stories that leave their marks on us. 

This week (finally) the project has a name. It also has an Instagram. 

So....

Follow our personal project, taken from our interactions with over 1000 women during boudoir sessions. See the marks that our stories leave. Be a part of these stories. Send the stories to those that need to hear them. Know that we're all in this together. 

Currently you can find the Scars of our OWN (yes that's the name!!!!) project at: 

@ScarsOfOurOWN on Instagram

Interested in participating? Get in touch with us here

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Confidence doesn't always come with a bodysuit ... |Atlanta Boudoir Photographer

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First of all, if your asking about this bodysuit the let me just say: it is the best bodysuit ever. It photographs incredibly different of each body, had the perfect elasticity, and OH YES that see-through fabric. It’s from Maison Close and it’s the bomb for boudoir (and the shower and just walking around in general sensuality).

Now on to the main event.


This gorgeous client came in to see us with intentions of giving the gift of a boudoir session to her long-distance boyfriend (edited to add he is no longer long distance!). She ended up giving us the gift of a perfect eyeshadow (it’s a metallic glitter shadow from Stila) and an open mind for her session. Read her words, see her life, the variety of wardrobes, and how client interview (like this very one!) helped her make her decision for OWN! 

She shared with her partner, she shared with her friends, and now she is sharing with you! Take this privilege and run with it, just like she did. Never hide how beautiful you are!

Text me for the link to that bodysuit, 

Sarah

 

 

1) How old are you... or if you prefer, who were you listening to at age 14 :)?

25

2) What do you do for a living?

I'm an Account Executive for a software company 

3) What/who made you decide to book a boudoir session?

I've always admired boudoir photography and been interested in booking a session. Once I saw Sarah's pictures, it was a done deal!

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4) Did you have any obstacles or fears about boudoir?

No, I felt confident in working with Sarah and her wonderful team. They helped me plan my outfits/ideas for the shoot and made it an overall seamless experience.

 

5) Why did you choose OWN?

Sarah's pictures speak for themselves! Her work is absolutely beautiful.

 

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6) How was the actual session different from what you expected (if at all)?

Based on all of the client interviews I read before my shoot, it was exactly what I expected. The day was extremely fun and laid back- there was great music going, Sarah had snacks out, and taking the pictures was so fun. I was sad when it was over and am already looking forward to another shoot in the future!

7) What was your favorite part of the entire experience? (priming, the shoot, seeing images, giving the images..etc)

This is a hard one! The entire experience was absolutely amazing. I think my favorite parts were getting ready and seeing the images. It was a blast getting ready with Sarah and Hope- so relaxing and the conversation was great. And then of course I was completely blown away during the viewing!

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8) How has the response been to your images?

Everyone has loved the images so much! I have at least 10 girlfriends who are interested in booking their own boudoir sessions now!

9) What is your advice for women interested in such a session?

BOOK IT! You will not regret it! The images are sure to be beautiful and the day is one for the books! 

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10) Did anything change about the way you see your own beauty as a result of this session?

Yes, it made me feel much sexier! 

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When vanity makes you do this... | Atlanta Boudoir Photographer

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"You're so vain", but who cares (especially when it comes to boudoir)

Sometimes vanity pushes us in the most positive of directions and that direction can lead us down an instagram wormhole that puts out out at my studio's doorstep. I don't really know how many times that actually happens to people, but I can count a few. This gorgeous human walked into my boudoir studio as a result of her husband's encouragement and on her OWN damn volition. We had such a fantastic time cracking up while trying to make the "sexy face". Spoiler: we succeeded in the sexy face but the bloopers are hilarious. 

I am so proud of her for being so open with us during her shoot, with you that are reading this, and with the future readers. She has an amazing joy and air about her... plus she is pretty F***ing hot. 

Read on ( preferably while blasting Metallica),

Sarah

 

1) How old are you... or if you prefer, who were you listening to at age 14 :)?

33 and Metallica!!

 

2) What do you do for a living?

Nurse

 

3) What/who made you decide to book a boudoir session?

 I did it for myself.. vanity baby!!

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4) Did you have any obstacles or fears about boudoir? 

I used to strip/do burlesque but that was before my body changed so I did feel insecure about my new body.

 

5) Why did you choose OWN? 

My husband found some images on Instagram and I loved the pictures!!

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6) How was the actual session different from what you expected (if at all)? 

It was way more fun and free. [I] didn't feel awkward at all!!

 

7) What was your favorite part of the entire experience? (priming, the shoot, seeing images, giving the images..etc) . 

The shoot!!!!!

 

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8) How has the response been to your images? 

Amazing. More than I was expecting even from my mom.

9) What is your advice for women interested in such a session? 

Just do it !!! Don't wait til you loose 5 pounds or w.e. you are concerned about. It'll be amazing regardless. We all have issues with something about out bodies and we are all beautiful!! Just do it!!!! You won't regret it. 

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10) Did anything change about the way you see your own beauty as a result of this session? 

Nothing I worry about on my body matters! F*** the haters!

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Interested in booking your OWN boudoir session (for your own self?)... Get in touch with Sarah here:

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Trusting the process.. | Atlanta Boudoir Photographer

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Sometimes the process of having your boudoir session is just as important as the resulting images. Yes, you look beautiful. Yes, the angles and lighting and champagne were ALL a big fan of you. However, sometimes it's the process itself that means the most. 

 

Reading through the words of my clients is one of my favorite things to do. While we get to talk and connect at your session, reading what clients have intentionally put on to paper (or...you know, a virtual paper) is incredibly special to me. Those words are chosen, thought about, and given to me. They create thoughts of joy, excitement, criticisms, nervousness, revelry, and humor!

Receiving the "client interview" back (which is what we call it here at the studio since we are soooo creative) is exciting because we get to read through intentional thoughts. The "client interview" is exciting for YOU guys, as clients and potential clients, because you have the ability to listen to someone else's experience and possibly find a commonality, ever how small, that speaks to you.

This current interview is full of a very real approach to the process behind her booking a boudoir session with OWN (and at all!). She is amazing, and I'm so lucky to have been able to be the catalyst to her finding the "beautiful person [that] has been lurking underneath".

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1) How old are you... or if you prefer, who were you listening to at age 14 :)?

42. I'm less embarrassed by my age than what I was listening to at age 14. :)

 

2) What do you do for a living?

I'm a freelance writer and Pilates teacher.

 

3) What/who made you decide to book a boudoir session?

I've probably been wanting to book a session for at least five years, maybe more. I have Pinterest boards dedicated to it. I just never knew who to go to or had the confidence to go for it. A friend of mine booked a session for her 40th and shared a couple of her photos, so I decided to book a session for myself. Having a mutual friend recommend services was key.

 

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4) Did you have any obstacles or fears about boudoir?

I grew up doing choir and theatre and work in fitness, so had no issues about my body or being in front of something else half naked. My main concern was about posing, and the photos not looking contrived or silly or unnatural. But Sarah's directions were so precise, everything felt natural and easy and comfortable.

 

5) Why did you choose OWN? 

A personal recommendation from a friend, plus the message of body acceptance--more than acceptance really. Celebration. Of embracing who and where you are right now. That sense of empowerment plus the stunning images really sold me.

 

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6) How was the actual session different from what you expected (if at all)?

Posing was hard! At least holding the poses. It was kind of like being in a yoga class, but in lingerie. Also, I'm surprised I managed to look so sexy when I was really laughing the whole time!

 

7) What was your favorite part of the entire experience? (priming, the shoot, seeing images, giving the images..etc)

Actually, the shoot itself. It was so fun and empowering. I had the best time. Even seeing the preview of the shots was enough for me. I loved the final images, but for me, embracing the process was the height of my experience.

 

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8) How has the response been to your images?

Well, they were my most liked photos on Instagram in 2017! Hahaha. Some people said that they thought it was an ad when they were scrolling through. Mostly, it made me want to put on lingerie, drink champagne, have my hair and makeup done, and take sexy photos every day!

 

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9) What is your advice for women interested in such a session?

Go for it! Don't wait until you feel you've lost those last five pounds. Embrace who you are right now. Or as I say, now that I'm in my 40s, you're never going to be as young and hot as you are right this very moment! But really, it was a super empowering and confidence boosting experience I think everyone should embrace.

 

10) Did anything change about the way you see your own beauty as a result of this session?

For sure. I have struggled with disordered eating most of my life. I teach fitness and am a fairly competitive runner and STILL find ways to beat myself up or bash my appearance almost daily. Seeing myself from afar--through the lens of another, literally--made me realize that beauty and confidence aren't about the size of your jeans or your age or the number on the scale. Beauty is confidence and embracing who and where you are in the moment. And yes, it was nice to have someone do my hair and makeup and shoot my best angles, but that beautiful person has always been lurking there underneath. I just needed to find her. 

 

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What if you saw your flaws as something else? | Client Interview | Atlanta Boudoir Photographer

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What if we saw our flaws and instead of wanting to change them we wanted to flaunt them? That's exactly the feeling this recent boudoir client had! 

Seriously, reading about the mental transformation that happens after your boudoir session is really encouraging to me (and hopefully to others reading this that are interested in boudoir!). Boudoir is so much more than nude photos and sexy photos. It is an empowering experience. Boudoir sessions allow you to see yourself from a different angle (literally and figuratively!!). You see facets of your personality and sensuality that you've never quite believed were there. You see angles of your body that genuinely represent how you physically look.... which is quite beautiful, by the way. 

In this client interview she enlightens us to her pre and post views of herself. In her private feedback with me she suggested that I do a before/after of clients... not because we believe you're super-helped by our magical wand, but because it can be hard to realize that not everyone you see walks around everyday looking glamorous with a fabulous ass. 

Read on and get your glamorous ass in here for a shoot...

-Sarah

 

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1) How old are you... or if you prefer, who were you listening to at age 14 :)?

I’m 34 ( at 14 I was obsessed with No Doubt and Tupac)

2) What do you do for a living?

I’m a software engineer

3) What/who made you decide to book a boudoir session?

I had recently ran across old photos and I remembered the  negative thoughts I had of my body. Yet now looking back, I realize how wrong those thoughts were. So I decided I wanted some sexy photos to look back on at 60 and be like yeah that’s me. 

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4) Did you have any obstacles or fears about boudoir?

Yes!! I had recently lost 40lbs so it was hard to see myself in a new light and I felt like it might show on camera. 

5) Why did you choose OWN? 

When I went to the website every single photo was amazing. It didn’t matter body size, scars, age, etc, they  were all just amazing. 

6) How was the actual session different from what you expected (if at all)?

I really thought I would be nervous but I got there and you made me feel like we had been roommates in college, so you had already seen me change clothes before. I remember we were talking as I was changing clothes one time and I just opened the door so we could chat easier, and it didn’t even matter. 

7) What was your favorite part of the entire experience? (priming, the shoot, seeing images, giving the images..etc)

Seeing the images as I went along. It really helped me relax even more. 

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8) How has the response been to your images?

Only positive, and that kind of positive that has people in like high pitch voices. 

9) What is your advice for women interested in such a session?

Just do it! If that means you have to skip buying those extra shoes to save for it, then do it because it’ll be worth so much more than anything you could buy

10) Did anything change about the way you see your own beauty as a result of this session?

Yes!!! First I see myself as sexy. But most importantly, things I use to see as flaws I see them now as something that makes me beautifully unique.

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What should I call this? | Atlanta Boudoir Photographer

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I need your help. How do I define my personal project? What do I name it? It isn't boudoir, but it grew from boudoir. 

My personal project for 2018 (if you haven't seen) is centered around scars. This project has already begun, but I need a name for it. Or a focus, or a hashtag, or ANYTHING. These images will be on a separate Instagram page from my current OWN boudoir instagram, though I'll be referencing them for the entirety of the project. 

What are your suggestions? Email me, text me, call me, or comment below. 

Love, Sarah.

 

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Personal Project | Atlanta Boudoir Photographer

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This year's personal project surrounds a subject that I encounter in each and every boudoir session, no matter if I'm here in Atlanta or elsewhere in the world. 

Let's talk about Scars.

 

While my breasts (I feel like that's the term I should use here) started to come in when I was around 11 years old, outside of the stretch marks from a young body growing some mega-boobs, my physical body doesn't have a lot of scarring. Sure, I also have one or two chicken-pock scars but that's it for my epidermis. 

My mother gave birth to me when she was 32 and I was a lil bitch in the womb. So much that she needed to surgically remove me (what can I say, I was 1.5 weeks late and comfy AF). We call that a C-Section. I grew up constantly seeing my mom's scar, but she never mentioned it and to me it seemed just like another part of her beauty. In the 80s the scars were more aggressive... picture a vertical scar down the abdomen. Include the staple marks. Now add stretch marks. 

This is normal for me. 

Fast forward to the purple stretch marks I began to have as my boobs came in. We spent a lot of money on scar cream (Mederma anyone?), but time was really the healer. If I have to be honest, my scars didn't really bother me because I knew nothing different. I had no Instagram models to compare myself to, TEEN magazine was mainly documenting makeup trends, boy bands, and romance quizzes– not body types.

As I began my career as a photographer I was immediately drawn to people. People in their element, people not in their element, people in general. 

When I started boudoir photography I immediately fell in love with the stories of my clients.

Of course each story isn't written with one page. 

Our client's' stories are written page after page. They describe experiences. They describe joys. They describe very painful lows. They describe very painful highs. 

In our clients I began to see a pattern of scars. We have physical scars that we'd like to cover up, yet the reason behind wanting to cover them is most often because we feel like we have to. 

We have emotional scars that we would like forgotten. Those scars are harder to visually see, but they cut just as deep. 

The thing about scars is that nearly 100% of the time a client comes to me she will request for me to remove any trace of her scars. There are of course exceptions, however a common request is to rid the images of all stretch marks, C-section scars, childhood wounds, beauty marks, adult battle-wounds, etc. We want to be seen as perfect. 

Why do scars make us imperfect? 

These are the thoughts and experiences I've had over the last 10 years as a photographer. About a year and a half ago I had a wild thought in my brain to bring boudoir clients in and photograph them with their scars. This would mean that those very scars they decided to hide would be brought to the present. These scars would be visible for all to see, and for all to love. 

In January 2018 I introduced the 'SCARS' project. We'll bring you in for a personal photo session in order to beautifully document you and the scars that grace you. I have no idea how this project will evolve, but I knew that I needed to start somewhere. I knew that I needed our clients and all people everywhere (women and men) to see the power and beauty and personal strength that comes from scars. 

 

Are you interested in participating in the 'Scars' project? Get in touch: Sarah@Ownboudoir.com

 

Live from Boston!!! | Atlanta Boudoir Photographer

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I'm in Boston, and it is cold AF

 

However.... tomorrow I start my last boudoir photoshoots of 2018 and I am SO excited. Really it's a cool thing to have clients that love their experience with OWN boudoir enough to refer me out to their other fiends in different cities. My boyfriend is also out here for work, though he will be here for an entire month. Bless his heart. I don't think I could survive a month with sub-15degree weather,   but I digress. 

Shooting boudoir in different places is incredibly rewarding for me. I experience different light, a variety of climates, various settings.... it really is a creative mind's dream! 

Anyway... that's an update of what I'm doing. Cheers to three days left of 2017!!!

 

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All wrapped up!!! | Atlanta Boudoir Photographer

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Wrapping up the season for Atlanta Boudoir

 

Being that it is the holiday season I of course wanted to some how incorporate some sort of present or gift-giving joke. Cue my "We're all wrapped up!" . I think it works, right?

Well that's it folks, we really are all wrapped up for the 2017 holiday season over here at OWN boudoir! There are a few boudoir sessions left that will round out our year, and one of them is even a shoot booked for a Christmas gift! She'll be walking away with a set of personal polaroids that we'll take during her session. Genius, right? Plus: WHAT a great stocking stuffer! 

*Side note, we are also doing these polaroids for Valentine's day, for those that haven't gotten booked before our cut-off! You can bring your S.O. back in to view the images together after VDay, but give the gift of some sexy polaroids over the dinner table ;) 

Thank you so so so so sooooooooooooooooooo much for your support and excitement about boudoir in 2017. 

Let's make 2018 our OWN

In love, wrapping paper, and paper cuts, 

Sarah and team

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Wine down | Atlanta Boudoir

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We all want to be this hot while drinking wine, right? Also... replace "wine" with smoothie, coffee, water, SmartWater (bc it's diff than regular water), or literally any emulsified substance. This boudoir session had us tipping our hats to the natural state of her existence: Wine and sweaters!!!! 

 

Also: this sweater is in our boudoir closet...and it is from amazon...AND it is $12. 

Happy holidays, you're welcome ;)

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We're back...and a little holiday reminder | Atlanta Boudoir Photographer

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It's the first full-day back in studio and we're setting it off with TWO boudoir sessions! I'll take that to mean that the holiday craziness has finally arrived. Luckily for us we really love the opportunity to get to create unique gifts for our clients. There are going to be so many lucky recipients of boudoir albums, scandalous 'sexts', and intimate wall-art. 

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Our week leading up to our holiday deadline are jam packed full, but there ARE still hours left to have your boudoir session in time for Valentine's day! Valentine's Day is RIGHT around the corner, with just a little over 2 months to go. 

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A reminder that our deadline to have your boudoir session for Valentine's day is February 2nd. We'll want to have at least a few weeks to plan your boudoir session, and January is nearly full! If you're thinking about booking a boudoir session for Valentine's day then step right up, ladies! Plus... it'll give you great incentive during the pie-temptations of the holidays. 

Interested in booking your boudoir session with OWN boudoir?

Contact us here or send us an email at sarah@ownboudoir.com!

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A little Monday love for all of you... | Atlanta Boudoir Photographer

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I'm currently writing this blog post from the comfort of my sofa, a place in which I have been uncomfortable all day long due to a a series of poor decisions that ultimately led to me eating some bad pizza last night. Cue the 3am "uh oh" feeling and fill in the blanks for yourselves. 

Since I HAVE been up all day long I've had a lot of time to think about the amazing boudoir sessions I've been able to shoot over the last few months. It's so rare that I get to sit down and mentally process what I've been shooting or how I've been challenged! What I discovered, as I was using my brain to think and occasionally moan, is that every.single.client over these past few months has been creatively challenging (in a great way!) to me! You've brought in amazing props, came in with unique narratives, brought me sweet treats (so manyyyyyyy sweet treats!), and challenged me to create images of you that were your OWN.

So basically I wanted to say "Thank you!!!!" for trusting me with creating intimate portraits for you. Intimate in nature, and intimate of the soul. 

My birthday is next week and so I think I'll be especially reflective in the coming days. 

Love y'all, 

Sarah

Makeup by Cameron DiCarlo, Hair by Sanae Murta

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"I'd f*** me" and other things | Client Interview | Atlanta Boudoir Photographer

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And just like that, it's that time again! Step right up and have a little listen (well.... read?) about another client experience. I mostly love that this client not only emphasizes that she loved her images, but she really took to loving the team that works with me. Let's face it, while I do have the privilege of getting to photograph my clients, the entire boudoir experience is not ME. Your boudoir experience is a combination of the OWN team... from Atlanta, to Seattle, to Charleston. We all have our OWN responsibilities (pun intended, ya'll) when it comes to the client experience. 

I am so glad to have met this lovely woman... plus she gave me a bad-ass 'Barbie Boudoir' book that sits at my studio and is always a conversation starter. Reading about her confidence (I believe her words were "I'd fuck me") just inspired me MORE to make certain all of my clients feel that way. 

Read on, look on, and groove on,

-Sarah

1) How old are you... or if you prefer, who were you listening to at age 14 :)?

38

 

2) What do you do for a living?

Stay at home mom!

 

3) What/who made you decide to book a boudoir session?

After being pregnant, back-to-back, I wanted to "get my groove back" haha! And do something nice for myself!

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4) Did you have any obstacles or fears about boudoir?

I was scared that I wouldn't like how I looked in the pictures. 

 

5) Why did you choose OWN? 

I loved the images on your website.

 

6) How was the actual session different from what you expected (if at all)?

It was so much fun! I was very comfortable with Sarah and trusted her whole heartedly, even when the positions she put me in felt un-natural.  Those ended up being the best images

 

7) What was your favorite part of the entire experience? (priming, the shoot, seeing images, giving the images..etc)

shopping! texting Kelsey and seeing the images

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8) How has the response been to your images?

everybody loves them! I have them framed in my powder room and in the entryway. You know how at funerals there is sometimes a persons picture next to the casket?  One of my boudoir photos will be at my funeral. 

 

9) What is your advice for women interested in such a session?

Do it! Don't hesitate, you will not regret it. 

 

10) Did anything change about the way you see your own beauty as a result of this session?

Yes, it made me feel more confident and sexual.  I'd fuck me..

 

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"I'm not afraid anymore" | Client Interview | Atlanta Boudoir Photographer

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Yesterday was the 4th of July and I hope that you all had a joyful time celebrating with friends and family (or yourself!). While the 4th celebrates a lot of things for us, a common theme is 'freedom'. Posting this client interview seems appropriate to the theme of 'freedom'. In almost every question she answers letting us know how much freedom she feels now that she has been through her OWN experience. 

Read on to hear her personal account on her boudoir session

In love and independence, 

Sarah

 

1) How old are you... or if you prefer, who were you listening to at age 14 :)?

 I am 23 and turning 24 in September. And at 14, I was (and still am) jamming to my girl, Beyoncé! 

2) What do you do for a living?

 I'm a full time mommy, wife, student, and nurse. 

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3) What/who made you decide to book a boudoir session? 

At first I thought I wanted to book a shoot to surprise my husband since I've never done anything "sexy" like a boudoir shoot. But then when I saw all the women looking so natural and beautiful in the pictures, I kept telling myself that I needed to do this for me. 

 

4) Did you have any obstacles or fears about boudoir? 

Being naked in front of a stranger was my first fear. But then I thought, "Why the hell not? I'm young, have a great body after having a baby not even a year after the shoot. Why not?!?" And I am SO glad I did it. 

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5) Why did you choose OWN? 

I researched a ton of different photographers in the area and I didn't find one who had the look I was interested in. Until I scrolled through your site off of Google! My mouth was on the floor looking through the gallery. (Still is after seeing my pictures!) 

 

6) How was the actual session different from what you expected (if at all)? 

I went in with an open mind so I didn't really know what to expect. I was feeling nervous at first but Sarah is seriously the easiest person to talk to. You’ll think you've known her for 10 years as soon as you meet her. 

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7) What was your favorite part of the entire experience? (priming, the shoot, seeing images, giving the images..etc) 

My favorite part was posing, getting a shot taken, and then pausing for a second to view the image. At first it feels weird posing at awkward angles. But when Sarah shows you what it looks like on camera, it's like "OH MY GOD. IS THAT ME?!" All of it was great but that was by far my favorite. 

8) How has the response been to your images?

My husband loved the previews so much that he thought that he couldn't love the rest. 

9) What is your advice for women interested in such a session?

Please do it. Don't wait until you "lose ten pounds". JUST DO IT. 

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10) Did anything change about the way you see your own beauty as a result of this session? 

Absolutely. As a mom, you're often expected to take care of yourself last. It's almost the social norm to let yourself go and to feel down and defeated after having children. I don't think that's fair. Women have the right to feel sexy and to feel comfortable in their own skin. This photo shoot did exactly that for me. I'm not afraid to wear that bathing suit at the pool anymore. I don't hide from my hubs after a shower. Own really made me realize, I may be a mom, but I can be hot, too. Behind clothes doors of course ;)

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Here are 3 things in your closet that are PERFECT for your boudoir session | Atlanta Boudoir Photographer

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Let it be known that you do not have to run out to your nearest lingerie store in order to outfit your boudoir session. Some of us just do not have the time and patience to try on bra after bra, find the perfect heels, or figure out how to tie a corset. Of course those are all 'boudoir activities' that are fantastic, but they aren't for everyone. 

This is where your closet comes in! Your boudoir session should be about choosing to be YOU and choosing to say 'yes' to your own beauty and sensuality. I'll assume that the clothes in your closet represent you in the best way, and so what better place to find the perfect boudoir wardrobe than your own closet? If you're looking at your closet and you hate it then might I recommend coercing a friend into helping you have a closet-intervention ;).

Here are 3 items that are likely to be in your closet and would work perfectly for your boudoir session:

  • White cotton tank top (or any basic cotton-ish tank top)
    • This wardrobe option is probably one of my MOST requested items/photos. I have plenty of tanks in my studio closet, but you probably have them in YOUR closet, too! It's a great option for those wanting a wide spectrum of abilities out of one piece. It can be worn casually or we can pull down the straps and wear it sensually. The options are vast! 
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  • A pair of jeans or jean shorts or any sort of denim-on-the-bottom.
    • I know I just said 'any' sort of denim on the bottom, and one of you is going to show up with denim chaps. That's fine. I'll photograph the hell out of it. Really, though, jeans and denim are incredibly sexy when photographed correctly. Pull down the zipper, let a hand 'wander', show a little skin with a few rips and tears.... I guarantee you'll love these images.
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  • That Little Black Dress
    • This is likely one of my most favoritest (yeah that's a word I made up) options for clients. It allows you to remain clothed if you'd like, but it also REALLY caters to the power of suggestion and the whole 'less (skin) is more' idea. We can unzip the dress, pull it sensually up the thighs, let the hands wander... etc. You get the picture ;) And if you don't get the picture, let ME get your picture. 
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I said "YAS" | Atlanta Boudoir Photography

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Recently I took a dream vacation to Greece, Europe, Planet Earth. While I would now love to flood your eyes with images of the Aegean Sea, cobblestone streets, and cities older than Jesus, I will use self control (that being said, go ahead and let me know if you want me to talk your ear off about the trip and show you beautiful photos through my cracked iPhone screen). 

 

The Greece vacation was a major result of a minor decision. 

 

Sometime in December 2016 I had a series of margaritas with a boudoir client-turned-margarita partner. We bonded over recent breakups, past boudoir sessions, our love for tiny dogs, and the inescapable feeling of wanderlust. Maybe it was the impending new year, maybe it was the margaritas, maybe it was Maybelline, but we declared 2017 to be the ‘year of YAS’. 

 

That’s ‘YAS’ with an ‘A’, because that’s how you say ‘yes’ when you realllllly mean it. 

 

Walking out of that conversation had me feeling a little drunk and a lot inspired. Saying ‘YAS’, or ‘yes’ for the remainder of this blog post, for this year seemed absolutely terrifying to my very-comfortable and predictable life. At the end of our time together my friend asked me “Hey do you want to go to Greece in May?” and not wanting to completely void the last 2.5 hours I enthusiastically responded “Yes”.

 

Fast forward to today, we’re about 6 months removed from the margarita madness and ‘Year of yes’ blood-pact and I’m proud to say that I have lived fully, wonderfully, irresponsibly, thoughtfully, creatively, and openly. I’m not sure what my next ‘YES’ will be but I recently said ‘yes’ to being in a new relationship, and that has been as much of a whirlwind-mind-blast as it could have ever been. Saying ‘yes’ may have the same effect on your heart rate as 12 cups of coffee and a 5hr energy drink, but it has a greater chance of opening you up to a wider variety of positive experiences in your life. 

 

There aren’t ever really any signs of what you might miss out on, there is only hindsight. A year, or a season, or a DAY of ‘yes’ can be a great thing for all of us. 

 

Whatever it means for you, let’s all “Say yes to your OWN adventure.”

 

Say ‘yes’ to: new relationships, tap dancing lessons, volunteering, trying new foods (unless your allergic), seeing a movie alone, making a life change, being photographed (hello boudoir!), cutting negativity out of your life, moving across the country, etc. 

 

After all, this is your OWN adventure. 

In love and spontaneity, 

Sarah

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